5 Surprising Secrets Men Keep

What's He REALLY Thinking? MarieClaire.com's male dating blogger Rich Santos reveals what men really think about sex, dating, relationships, and you. Discover more secrets of the male mind, read Rich's dating diary, [URL="http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/men/?link=emb&dom=yah_life&src=syn&con=blog_marieclaire&mag=mar"]Sex and the Single Guy[/URL].

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1. We notice what you're wearing. Make sure you cater [URL="http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/men/first-date-mistakes?link=emb&dom=yah_life&src=syn&con=blog_marieclaire&mag=mar"]what you wear[/URL] to what you're doing. I try not to make a girl walk too much if she's in heels. Also, I've seen girls wear pearls and a nice blouse to trashy outdoor drinking events, or heels to sporting events.

2. We hate when you [URL="http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/men/minor-annoyances-dating?link=emb&dom=yah_life&src=syn&con=blog_marieclaire&mag=mar"]try too hard[/URL] to be one of the guys. It's pretty lame that my buddies and I invent words and languages and then giggle over them like school children. But what's even lamer: when some outsider tries to use the language, without ability to contribute. [URL="http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/dating-blog/?link=emb&dom=yah_life&src=syn&con=blog_marieclaire&mag=mar"]That's what one of my old girlfriends did[/URL]. My friends and I would discuss how she was trying to speak like us, and it got to the point where I bristled every time I heard her speak one of our made up words.

3. We are [URL="http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/men/men-stereotypes-women?link=emb&dom=yah_life&src=syn&con=blog_marieclaire&mag=mar"]afraid of commitment[/URL]. Commitment means that I've decided that the woman I'm settling down with is perfect and there is no one else out there for me. [URL="http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/advice/how-to-find-your-soul-mate?link=emb&dom=yah_life&src=syn&con=blog_marieclaire&mag=mar%20"]Commitment means I've found my soul mate[/URL], that I am completely secure with myself, and that there should be no going back. I don't know about you, but all of that is pretty heavy. I think the old adage "Girls mature faster than boys" comes into play here. Commitment is a sign of maturity, and it just takes some of us longer.

4. Getting too tipsy on a date is a turnoff. Some people turn into a completely different person [URL="http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/men/first-date-mistakes?link=emb&dom=yah_life&src=syn&con=blog_marieclaire&mag=mar"]when they are drunk[/URL]. Let the other person learn about you while you're sober, before you get wasted with them. Alcohol should be introduced into the relationship slowly, but if a drink or two takes the edge off, and wine adds romance it's fine. Just don't push it too far.

5. We get jealous because we're insecure. If a guy feels like he does not deserve a woman or is not good enough for her, [URL="http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/men/guys-and-jealousy?link=emb&dom=yah_life&src=syn&con=blog_marieclaire&mag=mar"]he will become jealous[/URL] easily, and worried that he's going to lose her to another guy. On the other hand, I admit that I have tried to make girls I'm interested in jealous on purpose before.